Moving to Aged Care
Moving can be overwhelming for any one at any age or life stage, but for anyone further along their life journey, possibly moving to an aged care home, it can be even more challenging for everyone involved (e.g. family, friends, representatives), particularly if fare-welling the family home after many years.
Change is rarely easy, nor is it easy to farewell a loved home and the lifetime of possessions and associated memories within but sadly, as we age, reality steps in –
- The focus may now be on the need for daily assistance with activities like eating, dressing and bathing.
- The home may now be too large, too socially isolated, too expensive to maintain and/or have too much stuff to manage.
As well as deciding on a new home that provides the care and support now needed, lots of decisions will be required to make the move as smooth as possible – planning, deciding what to take and working out what to do with what must be farewelled.
One of the biggest emotional challenges when downsizing and moving is letting stuff go. Our emotional connection to what we own influences how challenging this can be –
- We can get bogged down with stuff and fixate on it.
- Family dynamics can get strained and family relationships tested.
- Family can also get bogged down with decisions about what they should keep.
Keeping focused on priorities can keep us on track. Ensure you source the necessary support and non-judgmental assistance. Be kind to yourself and your loved ones and please do not under-estimate how physically and mentally challenging it can be. Remember, in the end “it is just stuff”.
We currently live in an “age of abundance of stuff”, where most of us can buy what we want when we need it, thus many of our homes are overflowing with stuff, making a downsizing move quite daunting. Most of our lives we have upsized, so we are not necessarily experienced at downsizing.
Although it is not easy, we call all do it – the key is to find a way to move forward. So, realistically –
- Where do you start?
- How to plan it all, get it done and achieve deadlines?
- What if you physically can’t do it all?
- Availability of family or loved ones to help?
- Will you need professional assistance like allsorters?
- Realistically, what will it cost?
- Clarifying goals and priorities, keeping on track and coming to terms with the transition
- Setting out a timeline – the move, sale of house, settlement
- Where to maximise your time for greatest return
- If selling the family home, how to make it sparkle for sale (maximising the sale price, whilst minimising costs)
- Identifying what to take and what must go –
- Favourites (must haves, what you love)
- Functional items (what you currently use and what will support you in your new lifestyle)
- Farewelling what must go (give, sell, donate, toss)
- Getting it all done –
- Packing, moving, unpacking
- Sorting what’s left – items to be sold, recycled, donated or disposed of
- Refreshing and presenting the property for sale to maximise its sale price
allsorters specialise in assisting senior adults in their third age and their families – sometimes our clients have no family to assist them, sometimes our clients just need a little guidance to get on the right track, sometimes their family maybe remote or time poor.
We are all unique and thus no client or home is the same, so we provide a customised service to meet each person’s needs. Don’t lose sight of what is important – sadly, often families find it hard to focus on settling their loved one into their new home because they are too busy sorting out what’s left behind in the home.
For carers on this journey with a loved one, it is also a challenging time to ensure your loved one’s safety, health, welfare and emotional needs, while also helping them to settle in and embrace their new lifestyle.
It’s a huge job sorting an entire home. With our service, you can concentrate on yourself or your loved one, while knowing we are doing what needs to be done to achieve your best interests. Alternatively if you need just a little assistance and guidance, ask about our Downsizing Planning Consultation ($250-$295).
To discuss your needs and how we can help, contact Mary