clearing-loved-ones-possessionsThere is no quick answer as to when you should deal with your departed loved one’s possessions.  You may be prompted by seeing your loved one’s clothes in the closet or other items left behind.

Eventually you might decide that “it’s time”   …   
What you do is entirely up to you and your family
Don’t force it … 

  • There’s no process or advice that can prepare you for going through your loved one’s belongings.   How I deal with it maybe completely different to someone else
  • It is entirely up to you – it may take some time until you feel like you can face it or you may find it therapeutic to undertake it sooner than later
  • Don’t push or force yourself – be kind to yourself and face it when you can

We all have our good and bad days, especially when grieving …

  • Do it on a “good daybut if on the appointed day you feel unwell or can’t face it, don’t force it

Helpers?farewell-to-loved-ones-possessions

  • When you feel ready, you may want to involve your family or a close friend to support you through the sorting & packing process, even if they only contribute with a cup of tea
  • It’s OK if you would prefer someone else does it all or would like professional assistance from someone like allsorters

Wonderful memories …

  • Enjoy the wonderful memories you experience as you sort through your loved one’s belongings, take your time & enjoy these memories & sharing them with your family/friends
  • Understand that this is an emotional journey of great sadness and joy
  • Don’t feel like you have to let everything go – it’s OK to pick out the things that matter most to you and keep them as treasured memories of your loved one
  • Find some comfort in giving items away to others who may be in need or to family members

Irish blessing:

May the road rise up to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the sun shine warm upon your face
the rains fall soft upon your fields
and until we meet again
may God hold you in the palm of His hand