Moving to Aged Care
Moving can be an overwhelming experience for any one at any age or life stage, but for anyone further along their life journey, possibly moving to an aged care home, it can be emotionally and physically challenging for everyone involved (including family, friends and representatives), particularly if sorting through items and fare-welling the family home of many years.
Change is rarely easy, nor is it easy to farewell a loved home and the lifetime of possessions within but sadly, as we age, reality steps in –
- Ongoing assistance may now be needed with our “core” daily needs of eating, dressing and bathing
- Our home may now be too large, too isolated, too expensive to maintain and/or have too much stuff to manage.
Although it can be a difficult time, it is a great opportunity to focus on current needs and obtain the support now needed to live and enjoy each day.
As well as deciding on a new home that provides the level of support and care desired, lots of decisions will be required to plan the move, what you can take and how to let go of the lifetime of possessions you may need to farewell.
One of the biggest challenges when downsizing and moving is letting stuff go. Our emotional connection to what we own influences whether “letting stuff go” is easy or more challenging:
- We can get bogged down with stuff and give it more importance than it deserves.
- Family dynamics can get strained and family relationships tested.
- Family can also get bogged down with decisions about what they should keep.
Keeping focused on priorities can keep us on track. Ensure you source the necessary support and non-judgmental assistance. Be kind to yourself and your loved ones and please do not under-estimate how physically and mentally challenging it can be. Remember, in the end “it is just stuff”.
We currently live in an “age of abundance of stuff”, where most of us can buy what we want when we need it, thus many of our homes are overflowing with stuff, making a downsizing move quite daunting. Most of our lives we have upsized, so we are not necessarily experienced at downsizing.
Although it is not easy, we call all do it – the key is to find a way to move forward. So, realistically –
- Where do you start?
- How to plan it all, get it done and achieve deadlines?
- What if you physically can’t do it all?
- Availability of family or loved ones to help?
- Will you need professional assistance like allsorters?
- Realistically, what will it cost?
- Clarifying goals and priorities, keeping on track and coming to terms with the transition
- Setting out a timeline – the move, sale of house, settlement
- Where to maximise your time for greatest return
- If selling the family home, how to make it sparkle for sale (maximising the sale price, whilst minimising costs)
- Identifying what to take and what must go –
- Favourites (must haves, what you love)
- Functional items (what you currently use and what will support you in your new lifestyle)
- Farewelling what must go (give, sell, donate, toss)
- Getting it all done –
- Packing, moving, unpacking
- Sorting what’s left – items to be sold, recycled, donated or disposed of
- Refreshing and presenting the property for sale to maximise its sale price
allsorters specialise in assisting senior adults in their third age and their families – sometimes our clients have no family to assist them, sometimes our clients just need a little guidance to get on the right track, sometimes their family maybe remote or time poor.
We are all unique and thus no client or home is the same, so we provide a customised service to meet each person’s needs. Don’t lose sight of what is important – sadly, often families find it hard to focus on settling their loved one into their new home because they are too busy sorting out what’s left behind in the home.
For carers on this journey with a loved one, it is also a challenging time to ensure your loved one’s safety, health, welfare and emotional needs, while also helping them to settle in and embrace their new lifestyle.
It’s a huge job sorting an entire home. With our service, you can concentrate on yourself or your loved one, while knowing we are doing what needs to be done to achieve your best interests. Alternatively if you need just a little assistance and guidance, ask about our Downsizing Planning Consultation ($250-$295).
To discuss your needs and how we can help, contact Mary